Respect isn't something we receive—it's something we give to ourselves first. The way we value our time, boundaries, and voice establishes the standard for how others will treat us in return. When we abandon ourselves to please others, we create a dangerous pattern that damages our relationships and mental health.
Have you ever found yourself constantly available, overgiving, and ignoring red flags in a relationship? Many of us do this because we rarely meet people we genuinely connect with, so when we do, we're willing to sacrifice our needs to keep them around. But this approach teaches others that their needs matter more than our own, leading to canceled dates, delayed responses, and eventually, disrespect.
Learning to enjoy your own company is transformative. When you love yourself, maintain your interests, and lead a fulfilling life, people naturally respect you more. Setting and honoring boundaries isn't just about romantic relationships—it applies equally to friendships and family. Sometimes, walking away from people who repeatedly disrespect your boundaries is necessary, even when it's painful. Remember that the right people won't leave because you have standards.
Balance is essential in healthy relationships. Maintaining your identity, friends, and hobbies makes you more attractive to your partner and creates the space where love thrives. As Coach Deron explains, "Just like music happens between the notes, love happens in the space between you and your person." This space allows both partners to miss each other, think about each other, and build anticipation that sustains attraction.
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