Discipline | Herbert Cooper
Proverbs 29:17 Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire. (NIV)
Proverbs 19:18 Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives. (NLT)
4 Wrong Ways to Discipline
1. Threatening your kids
2. The repeating parrot
3. The bribing parent
4. Misusing compassion
5 Important Insights to Effective Discipline
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. (NKJV)
1. First time obedience
Hebrews 12:7–11 As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. Who ever heard of a child who is never disciplined by its father? 8 If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all. 9 Since we respected our earthly fathers who disciplined us, shouldn’t we submit even more to the discipline of the Father of our spirits, and live forever? 10 For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. 11 No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. (NLT)
2. Limit choices early on
3. Train your child's heart through non-conflict instruction
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (NIV)
4. The type of correction depends on the motives
1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. (NLT)
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him. (NKJV)
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Discipline Your Children
How frequent is the offense?
What’s the context of the moment?
What is your child's age?
What is the overall characterization of your child's behavior?
5. Show them don’t tell them
1 Corinthians 11:1 Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ. (NIV)
