Hello friends! It's been over a year since we did a dedicated mental health episode, so today I'm doing a big catch-up and running through my 7-point plan for being a more mentally secure me. None of this is professional medical advice (I am most definitely not a doctor or therapist — well, actually, I am in therapy, but that's tip #5), so take what's useful and leave what isn't. Terms and conditions apply.
Here's my current mental health toolkit:
- Drink a ton of water — I try to chug a full Yeti thermos before my morning mint hot cocoa, then keep it going throughout the day. I taper off around dinnertime to minimize, uh, nighttime tinkle stops. Science agrees this does good things for your brain.
- Brick your phone — I've been using a little Bluetooth device called Brick that hooks into your phone's screen time features so you can block distracting apps on demand or on a schedule. I've got a "Brian Needs Sleepy" timer set for 9 p.m. every night — pretty much everything except the clock app goes dark. Outlook, Gmail, all the socials — gone. It's not revolutionary advice, but it turns out doing what people have been telling you to do for years actually works.
- Get enough sleep — Directly related to the Brick. Phone goes dark at 9 p.m., I yap with Mrs. 7 or we watch a show, and by 10:30 p.m. my peepers are drooping. I feel more refreshed and less anxiety-ridden during the day.
- Supplements — I'm not here to hawk some magic elixir with 47 mystery ingredients. What I'm currently trying is Nello Supercalm — a powder you mix into water. It's got magnesium glycinate, L-theanine, vitamin D3, and ashwagandha. I thought it was placebo at first, but kept it up for a week and noticed a legit mood/pep boost. Your mileage may vary, but it's doing something for me.
- Therapy — I've been in therapy since 2019 when my house burned down (link to those episodes here if you want to get thoroughly bummed out). If I could go back, I'd have started way earlier. The biggest benefit for me isn't some parade of uplifting affirmations — it's having a neutral third party with no stake in my life help me see situations from different angles and cut myself some slack.
- Take care of the TMJ — A few years back I started getting tinnitus bad. ENTs were basically like "yep, try not to think about it" — super helpful, guys. Eventually a jaw specialist found an irregularity on the left side of my jaw and fitted me with a heavy-duty custom mouth guard. That alone made a monumental difference in the ear ringing. But I also picked up a TMJ Pen on a chiropractor's recommendation — it's a 3D-printed vibrating/heated massager specifically designed for jaw muscles. Looks exactly like a vape (fun times at the airport), but it's been worth every penny of its ~$200 price tag. Between the mouth guard and the TMJ Pen, I wake up feeling way less like I survived a Saving Private Ryan scene.
- Forced fun — After a full work day plus all the dad/house stuff, my go-to is to be a blob on the couch. Nothing wrong with that sometimes. But I've found that the things that actually recharge me — like singing and playing guitar — require a little push to get started. So tip #7 is basically a note to future tired Brian: go downstairs, plug in the guitar, and start playing. You'll be glad you did.
Got mental health tips that work for you? I'd genuinely love to hear them — this is the kind of conversation I want to be two-way. Find me and all things 7MS at 7MinSec.com, our Substack at 7MinSec.club, and our constantly growing pentesting wiki at 7MinSec.wiki.
