In this Episode:
This podcast episode of the "Achieve Results Now podcast" focuses on the importance of overcoming your ego to find clarity and achieve better life results. Hosts Mark Cardone and Theron Feidt argue that people's need to be "right" often prevents them from discovering the truth and improving.
Key Theme: Truth Over Ego
The hosts share the central quote for the episode: "Don't let your need to be right be more important than your need to find out what's true." They explain that the need to be right comes from ego, a subconscious self-protection mechanism that makes people think being wrong means they are a "bad person."
The podcast then outlines a three-step guide to help listeners move past their ego and embrace a growth mindset.
3-Step Guide to Overcoming Ego
1. Practice the "I Could Be Wrong" Mindset
- Acknowledge the Possibility: Internalize the idea that you might be incorrect, rather than using the phrase as a disclaimer before arguing your point.
- Shift Your Goal from Winning to Learning: Instead of approaching discussions with the goal to dominate or win the argument, approach them with the goal to learn new information. This change in mindset lowers your defenses and opens you up to growth. The hosts emphasize that it takes courage to admit, "I don't know the answer to that."
2. Focus on Understanding, Not Just Arguing
- Listen Actively: Pay attention to what the other person is saying with the intent to understand, not just to prepare your reply.
- Ask Clarifying Questions: Use open-ended questions like, "Can you help me understand that?" or "Tell me more about that?" to dig deeper into the issue.
- Summarize/Restate Their Points: Verbalize your understanding of their points or challenges. This helps them feel heard and allows them to correct you, leading to mutual clarity and better relationships. This concept is likened to the medical idea of being "prescriptive" instead of just handing someone your "glasses."
3. See Mistakes and Disagreements as Opportunities
- Change "Problems" to "Opportunities" or "Challenges": This slight change in language lowers the temperature of the situation and reflects the truth that challenges are a chance to learn and get better.
- Embrace Humility (and being wrong as a win): You learn far more from your mistakes than your successes. Being a "lifelong learner" requires being comfortable with being wrong.
- Model the Behavior: Show others it's okay to be wrong. When you are corrected, thank the person for helping you learn and grow. This is especially important for parents to do with their children to build trust.
The hosts conclude by encouraging listeners to apply these steps to have more productive conversations and achieve better results in all areas of life, not just money or career.
ARN Suggested Reading:
Blessings In the Bullshit: A Guided Journal for Finding the BEST In Every Day – by Mark Cardone & Theron Feidt
https://www.amazon.com/Blessings-Bullshit-Guided-Journal-Finding/dp/B09FP35ZXX/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=blessings+in+the+bullshit&qid=1632233840&sr=8-1
Full List of Recommended Books: https://www.achieveresultsnow.com/readers-are-leaders
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