In this episode, we welcome therapist, writer, and podcast host Blake Blankenbecler into a powerful conversation about emotional language, body awareness, and the harm of emotional outsourcing. Blake unpacks why many men struggle to name their inner world and what it takes to reclaim curiosity, tenderness, and truth. Together, we talk about the nervous system, faith deconstruction, co-regulation, and why presence is the most healing thing we offer one another. This episode will meet you where you are and gently invite you further in.
Takeaways
“If I can’t be with it, I can’t heal it.” Naming precedes healing.
Outsourcing your emotions to others is common—but it can become harmful.
Co-regulation is foundational to emotional safety in relationships.
Curiosity helps us approach our pain instead of controlling it.
The nervous system needs safety to tell the truth.
You can’t think your way into healing—your body has to believe it too.
Presence is the most healing gift we can offer in a hurting world.
Emotionally safe men are formed, not found.
Check out more of Blake Blankenbecler:
🌐 Website – blakeblankenbecler.com
📸 Instagram – @blakeblankenbecler
The Friendship Deck: thefriendshipdeck.com
Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.com
Chapters
(00:00) Meet Blake Blankenbecler – Therapist
(03:00) Language for the Inner Life
(06:00) What is Emotional Outsourcing?
(10:00) The Power of Co-Regulation
(14:00) Why Men Struggle to Name Emotions
(18:00) Body-Based Healing and the Nervous System
(22:00) From Christian Duty to Emotional Honesty
(26:00) How Curiosity Changes the Healing Process
(30:00) Practicing Emotional Responsibility
(33:00) The Lie of Being Too Much
(36:00) Faith, Attachment, and Embodied Safety
(41:00) Relationships as the Place of Repair
(45:00) Where to Find Blake Online
Keywords
Blake Blankenbecler, Three Percent, emotional health, holistic masculinity, co-regulation, emotional outsourcing, nervous system healing, trauma recovery, therapy, men’s emotions, inner work, Christian deconstruction, embodiment, faith and healing, presence, emotional literacy, emotional responsibility, relationships, healing through connection, curiosity, somatic healing, mental health, attachment, tenderness, emotional safety
