We often want the results of change, but don't want to do the work required. Why, when we know that the change we want to make will improve our life, do we refuse to change or sabotage our efforts?
We are biologically hardwired to resist change. Change is a potential threat, and until we know the consequences of that change, we are unwilling to proceed.
For example, many people are overweight. They know how to lose weight, but they don't. Why? If they lose weight, they may experience attention that makes them feel uncomfortable. They may discover that being overweight was a justification they used for everything that didn't work in their life. They many tell themselves "I didn't get the promotion because I'm overweight." The truth may be that they're not qualified.
I'm unhappy in this relationship. I stay because having a crappy relationship is better than the pain I will feel if I'm not in a relationship.
You know the version of this that you're telling yourself. And if changing is too scary at this time, give yourself grace. But realize there is a path forward to making change. It starts with believing you can.
