In this solo episode, Wes Lambert breaks down the practical framework for living an integrated life where your actions actually match your values. Drawing from Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), he provides actionable exercises to help you identify what truly matters, make better decisions, and close the gap between who you say you are and who you actually are.
In this episode, we cover:
- The difference between values and goals - Why understanding this distinction is critical for long-term satisfaction, and how to identify your 5 core values that should drive your decisions
- The decision-making framework - Learn the pause-reflect-align method, why the word "decide" literally means "to cut away," and how to avoid getting hooked by emotions and distractions when making important choices
- Aspirational vs lived values - The humbling exercise of examining whether you're actually living out what you claim to care about, and practical strategies (habit stacking, mindfulness, self-compassion) for closing the integrity gap
- Committed action in the face of discomfort - How to stay consistent with values-based behavior even when it's uncomfortable, using meaning as motivation to push through setbacks and barriers
Resources:
- Core Values List: https://jamesclear.com/core-values
- Book: Essentialism by Greg McKeown
- Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear
- Learn more about Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT)
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