Episode 8: Conflict & The Power of the Tongue | Tools for Marriage
This episode offers practical tools and timeless wisdom for couples seeking to transform conflict into deeper connection. Hosts Trevor and Laura, drawing from personal experience and expert research, reveal how healthy communication, empathy, and a "win-win" mindset can strengthen any marriage. Discover how to navigate disagreements, foster understanding, and build a thriving relationship where both partners feel heard, valued, and loved.
Podcast Chapters:
(00:00) A Cow Tongue and the Power of Words
(00:38) Tools for Marriage Opening and Vision
(00:59) The Power of the Tongue: Healing or Hurting Your Relationship
(01:30) Embracing Conflict: Why Healthy Disagreements Bring You Closer
(03:14) Oneness & Being on the Same Team
(05:33) Cutting Words That Crush and Wound
(06:11) Uplifting and Expressing Gratitude
(08:10) Marriage Is Like a Raft & One Heart
(09:41) How Many Conflicts Do Couples Have?
(11:00) Differences & Preferences
(12:20) Perpetual Problems: Understanding Unsolvable Marital Conflicts
(16:00) Keeping It Internal: Not Sharing Issues with Others
(19:15) Starting with the End in Mind and Win-Win Solutions
(27:08) Empathetic Listening and Curiosity: Understanding Your Partner's Perspective
(35:57) Marriage Research: Soft Start vs. Harsh Startup
(39:43) Navigating Conflict Styles: Turtles vs. Rhinos
(46:31) Keeping the Issue the Issue: Avoiding Personal Attacks
(49:19) How Can I Make Your Day Better?
(51:21) Essential Communication Tools: XYZ Formula
(52:33) Water Break & Fight or Flight
(54:40) Rewind or Reset
(55:51) Biblical Wisdom for Your Marriage
(57:57) Thanks for Watching Please Subscribe
Show Notes:
Tools for Marriage - https://toolsformarriage.com
Try Softer by Aundi Kolber - https://www.amazon.com/Try-Softer-Approach-Mode-Connection/dp/1496439651
He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation Hardcover by Willard F. Harley Jr. - https://www.amazon.com/He-Wins-She-Learning-Negotiation/dp/0800722515
John & Julie Gottman - https://www.gottman.com/
Doug Fields - https://dougfields.com
Marriage Matters - https://marinerschurch.org/events/
