You don’t have a communication problem.You have a clarity problem.
Story:There are 3 clear steps to being a great communicator1, Knowing what you are looking to communicate
When I came back home to Omagh I was hired to teach tia chi to the Omagh blind center, I thought it was a respite session for the workers and carers, when I arrived at the class I quickly realised it was a session of the people who used the center.Knowing my art inside and out is why that session was a great one that actually led to me teaching in Omagh for the next 12 years.
2, Speaking clearly, using the full range of your voice and allowing for silence
3, Listening to the response, having an open mind, allowing the people or person you are communicating with to have their opinion and be willing to have yours changed.
Talking Points:
Most “communication issues” are self-awareness issues.
You can’t express what you haven’t first clarified inside.
Real communication is speaking and listening, not reacting.
Action:The Mirror Call.Before your next hard conversation, write it down. Get clear on what you really think and feel, then speak it out loud, get some practice in.
Closing Line:Communication isn’t about being loud, it’s not about being right.
It is a 2 way interaction, where you are willing to lead and be led.
