When was the last time you said “no” to a request? Without an explanation, apology, or quick offer to help in some other way?
If you can’t remember… you’re not alone.
For decades, many of us, especially women over 45 have been conditioned to believe that our worth is measured by how much we can do for others. We become the default solution for every problem, the invisible glue holding everything together… even at the expense of our own well-being.
But here’s the truth: “That’s not my job” isn’t selfish.
In this episode of The Joy Unleashed Project, Mattie Cummins invites you to reclaim your time, energy, and peace by getting crystal clear on what’s actually yours to carry. As well as what’s not.
Because the life you want doesn’t come from doing more.
It comes from doing what’s yours.
Inside this episode:
The hidden cost of “responsibility creep” and how it leaves you burnt out
Why saying “That’s not my job” is a declaration of clarity, not laziness
Four practical strategies for setting boundaries without guilt
How to handle pushback when people resist your new limits
A life-changing exercise to write your personal “job description”
You’ll learn:
The Pause – A simple way to give yourself space before saying “yes”
The Redirect – How to say “no” while still showing you care
The Broken Record – What to do when people keep pushing
The Values Check – The one question that reveals whether a request truly belongs to you
You’ll walk away with:
Permission to step back from roles you never signed up for
A proven framework for deciding what’s yours and what’s not
The confidence to set boundaries - without apology
More energy for your goals, dreams, and the people who matter most
Because here’s the truth:
When you stop overfunctioning, others get to step in.
When you stop being the default solution, new options appear.
When you stop saying yes to everything, your “yes” becomes powerful.
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You don’t have to do it all to live a full, meaningful life.
Your job is not to be everything to everyone.
Your job is to live yours - fully, joyfully, and unapologetically. 💛
