The Validation Detox: Becoming Your Own Approval Machine (Stop Seeking, Start Self-Sourcing)
Addicted to likes, approval, and external validation? This episode reveals why seeking validation from others is like junk food for the soul and provides a practical framework for becoming your own reliable source of approval and worth. Learn to trust your judgment and validate your own experience.
What You'll Learn:
Why social approval activates the same brain pathways as addictive substances
How contingent self-worth creates anxiety, depression, and relationship problems
The neuroscience of why criticism feels like physical pain
Why external validation never provides lasting satisfaction
How validation addiction keeps you from authentic self-expression
The difference between gathering input and seeking approval
Practical tools for developing internal validation and self-approval
How to break free from the approval trap and trust your own judgment
Perfect for: People-pleasers, approval seekers, social media validation addicts, anyone afraid of criticism, decision-makers who constantly seek others' opinions, and people ready to build unshakeable self-worth.
Tags: validation addiction, external validation, self-approval, people pleasing, social media addiction, self-worth, internal validation, approval seeking, confidence building, self-trust, boundary setting, authentic living, independence, self-reliance, validation detox, approval machine, criticism sensitivity, opinion addiction, self-validation
References:
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Research on impression management: Schlenker, B. R. (1980). Impression Management: The Self-Concept, Social Identity, and Interpersonal Relations. Brooks/Cole Publishing Company.
