When we are betrayed by someone, it is really challenging to trust them again. Not impossible, but not easy. Grace and courage is required and there are always consequences for bad behaviour. But if we can't reconcile with people who have betrayed us when it is reasonable to do so, we will treat ourselves the same way. We know that with some grace and the courage to learn and grow we can improve and be more trustworthy, so lets give that courtesy to others when it is safe to do so. Everyone except president Logan from the TV series 24. He is just bad to the core!!!
