In this episode of Actual* Experts, Caitlin and Lundie sit down with somatic intimacy coach and founder of The Libido Fairy, Hannah Johnson, to demystify libido, desire, and why so many women feel confused or stressed about their sex drive.
Hannah breaks down what libido actually is, why it changes throughout our lives, and why nothing is wrong with you if yours feels low, missing, or inconsistent. From spontaneous vs. responsive desire, to anatomy myths, p*rn misconceptions, pleasure mapping, and navigating mismatched desire in relationships, Hannah brings clarity, science, and zero shame to one of the most intimate parts of being a woman. If you’ve ever wondered “Is my libido normal?” - this episode is for you.
00:45 - Intro & Actual Stats
13:30 - What led Hannah to start ‘The Libido Fairy
17:30 - What libido actually is (and why it’s not ‘sex drive’)
19:15 - How stress, safety & biology shape women’s arousal
26:50 - How to navigate mismatched desire in relationships
36:00 - Anatomy 101: What actually feels good to women and why
40:30 - Pleasure mapping & reconnecting to your body
45:30 - P*rn, smut & realistic expectations
49:00 - Spontaneous vs. responsive desire explained
52:30 - Birth control, antidepressants & libido: what the science says
54:00 - Libido and aging: the myth of the “decline”
01:02:30 - Fetishes, taboos & the psychology behind desire
01:07:00 - Debrief
01:18:00 - Coming next week “WTF is…A Mortgage?!”
