For a long time, I thought strength looked like putting on the armor. Holding the line. Carrying the weight for everyone else.
But lately, I’ve been asking a harder question:
What if the bravest thing isn’t holding on?
What if it’s daring to tell the truth about who you are—underneath it all?
In this episode of The Back Porch, I talk about identity and truth. About how easily we let the world define us, and how hard it is to strip off the labels we’ve worn for too long. I think about Erika Kirk, suddenly thrust into the spotlight with expectations no one should have to carry so soon after heartbreak. And I think about Melissa Manchester’s Don’t Cry Out Loud, the haunting reminder of how many of us were told to hold it in when what we needed was space to let it out.
With honesty and exhaustion, I unpack the cost of pretending, the freedom of speaking, and the quiet strength that comes from laying down what no longer fits. It’s about asking the hardest question: Who am I, underneath it all?
And maybe most of all, it’s about the version of you who rises when the mask finally falls.
In this episode:
Why identity isn’t who you’ve been—it’s who you choose to be today
How silence can feel safe but becomes a prison
Why authenticity requires courage, not polish
The weight Erika Kirk carries in the spotlight, and what it teaches us about space and grace
How Melissa Manchester’s anthem reminds us of the pressure to hide our grief
Why speaking your truth is the beginning of reclaiming yourself
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As always, with space and a little salty grace…
Until the next time the porch lights blink.
