In this compelling episode of Life-Changing Challengers, host Brad Minus sits down with Kimber Foster, author of The Year of Thorns: What to Expect When Divorcing a Narcissist. Kimber opens up about her journey from an overachieving, people-pleasing child in Grand Rapids, Michigan, to enduring a toxic marriage characterized by narcissistic abuse, manipulation, and control.
After 24 years in a marriage with a narcissistic spouse, Kimber found herself emotionally broken, isolated, and fighting to regain her sense of self. Through her writing, coaching, and advocacy, she now empowers others to recognize red flags, break free from abusive relationships, and reclaim their lives. This episode is a raw, honest look at the insidious nature of narcissistic abuse and the strength it takes to rise above it.
Episode Highlights
- [2:00] – Kimber’s childhood as the youngest of three, growing up as an “oops” child in Michigan
- [15:00] – Early red flags in her marriage and the gradual erosion of her self-worth
- [30:00] – The isolation caused by constant moves and her husband’s control over their life and finances
- [45:00] – Surviving emotional, verbal, and physical abuse and the realization she was married to a narcissist
- [1:05:00] – The breaking point: a panic attack that forced her to face the reality of her situation
- [1:20:00] – Writing The Year of Thorns and why sharing her story was a turning point in her healing
- [1:35:00] – Kimber’s divorce checklist: A comprehensive guide for those preparing to leave a toxic relationship
Key Takeaways
- Love Bombing Is a Red Flag – Narcissists often come on too strong too fast to create a false sense of connection.
- Narcissists Never Take Accountability – If someone constantly blames others and never admits fault, pay attention.
- Gaslighting Is Psychological Abuse – Making you doubt your reality is a classic tactic used to maintain control.
- Reclaiming Your Identity Takes Time – After years of manipulation, rediscovering your self-worth is a process.
- Resources Exist—You’re Not Alone – Kimber’s Divorce Checklist offers practical guidance for those ready to leave.
Links & Resources
- 📘 Book: The Year of Thorns: What to Expect When Divorcing a Narcissist – Buy on Amazon
- 🌐 Website: YearOfThorns.com – Access free resources including her Divorce Checklist, blogs, and coaching info
- 📱 Connect with Kimber on Social Media:
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