‘THE ART OF BEING CHARMING’
What do you understand by the term‘charm’?
Charm’ is a quality that makes someone or something attractive, pleasing or likeable.’
Charm isn’t about superficial tricksor flashy moves. Charm is aboutconnection, warmth and making others feel genuinely seen and valued. Now let’s unpack how genuine charm cantransform lives, including your own.
Psychologically charm works because it activates a deep human desire to feel understood and appreciated when we sense real attention, our brains release feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin, fostering connection and trust. So, charm isn’t just surface level: it’s biologically powerful.
I was a teacher for about 3 decades, and charm wasn’t something I consciously aimed to ‘perform’, but it wasessential’. I often say that almost about five hundredstudents still connect with me years later, not just because I taught them well, but because I made an earnest effort to make them feel important , heard and cared for.
I remember an incident where a shy student who was coming from an ordinary family, once told me that my smallgestures like remembering his favourite book or even asking about his family, gave him enormous confidence. I had alsoevolved various techniques for the brighter students to interact with the average ones to make them feel important by teaming them together. This built their confidence and I could also see the colossal improvement in their studies and their day-to-day activities.
This kind of charm builds lasting bonds. As a teacher, ‘charm’ means being genuinely present and making each student feel like the most important person in the classroom.
When we talk of the charm of an air-hostess, in just a few moments, she creates comfort, calm and positivityfor dozens of passengers who are strangers to each other.
Her charm lies in attentiveness, patience and a warm smile that says, “you’re safe here and I care about your experience”.
It’s a remainder that charm can be professional and yet completely authentic.
Here I would like to add, parents too,have a beautiful opportunity to be charming in unique ways. When parents show charm towards theirchildren, it teaches them to feel loved and confident.
Simple loving acts like listening patiently to their endless stories, celebrating their little wins with enthusiasm, or offering comfort with a kind word are all forms of charm. This builds emotional safety and shapes how children relate to others as they grow.
I know of a parent who would alwayskneel down to the level to his children when talking, making eye contact,laughing with them, playing with them and truly tuning in. this simple behaviour will make the childfeel respected and understood, creating a life-long bond of trust. Charm here becomes an expression of love.
Now friends how can we bring morecharm into our own life?
Start with simple presence. Charm isn’t about being fully there, it isn’tabout the moment or about being perfect.
Practice active listening.
Ask questions that show you care. Use genuine smiles and maintain warm eyecontact.
Remember names and details that areimportant to others.
Charm lifts others up.
It’s a gentle and amazing art of making people feel like they belong And that they are worthy of attention and kindness.
Thank you all so much for joining me today on this journey exploring the art of being charming.
Whether you’re a teacher, a parent, aprofessional like an air hostess, or simply someone who wants a better connection, charm is within your reach.
It’s about authenticity, kindness and the simple yet profound act of making others feel seen and appreciated.
I hope these stories and insights inspire you to practice charm in your everyday life.
Until next time, keep shining your light and spreading warmth everywhere you go.
Take care!
It’s your host Leena Madan signing offtill next.
Thanks, and bye-bye.
