A rare male voice in the herpes space, Christopher Pickering, breaks down erectile dysfunction, porn desensitisation, disclosure, and why his sex life got better post-diagnosis.
We cover:
A male blueprint for navigating herpes, ED, and dating with actual results
How to re-sensitize your brain + body so real sex feels good again
The numbers game of dating post-diagnosis (and why one “yes” changes everything)
Masculine leadership in disclosure (what women wish men would do)
Ethics of coaching: free vs paid help, and why “when you pay, you pay attention”
Diagnosis ≠ death sentence. Chris used herpes as leverage to fix ED, quit porn, build confidence, and make condoms work.
One win resets the nervous system. You only need a single successful disclosure to rewrite your dating beliefs.
Stigma is cultural. Bali/Europe ≠ North America. Education > fear.
If you don’t believe the shame, it can’t stick. Judgment only lands on what you secretly agree with.
Business & love mirror each other. Rejection is data. Keep going.
Time-stamped guide
00:00 Two choices: hide forever… or heal for real (ED + herpes)
00:49 Where are the men? The five male advocates he can name
02:26 Diagnosis story (Covid era, slow realization)
06:09 Sexless first relationship, desensitisation spiral
10:04 The night he likely got HSV-2; the condom problem
12:06 What was harder: ED shame vs. herpes stigma
17:26 First disclosure via Google Translate (and why it worked)
19:59 Her oral HSV, his perspective shift: “It’s the same thing”
21:20 The belief break: one yes > 100 imagined rejections
21:42 Dating = sales: why “no” isn’t a verdict, it’s math
23:49 Building a herpes brand, handling haters (and a 6.6M-view clapback)
30:39 Family finding out on YouTube (and why he didn’t spiral)
45:13 Who has it “easier,” men or women? (truth: both grind, differently)
53:15 Sex now: less stress, more leadership, better orgasms
Connect with Christopher:
IG: @PickeringFitnessTikTok: @PickeringFitness
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