120 When Simple Tasks Turn Into Big Struggles

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If your child melts down over getting dressed, avoids homework, or can’t stick with a simple routine—it’s not defiance or laziness. Their brain might be overwhelmed by the steps we’re asking them to take.
Many kids are expected to follow plans or routines before they’re ready—because no one has helped them with the basics their brain needs first.
Before kids can follow a list or stay focused, they need help with skills like noticing what’s happening around them, managing distractions, and stopping themselves from going off track.
When we slow things down and meet them at the step they can handle, they feel more successful—and that’s when real progress begins.
Your child isn’t failing. They just need support that matches how their brain works.

[00:01:15] Why even adults struggle with attention—and how screens play a role
[00:06:40] Real-life examples of attention struggles and how they affect daily routines
[00:08:15] Introducing the fire metaphor: Kindling, logs, and flames of executive functioning
[00:10:20] The four foundational skills that must come before planning
[00:13:10] Why giving your child a “beautiful visual schedule” might still lead to meltdowns
[00:14:35] How skipping steps on the ladder causes overwhelm, shutdowns, and feelings of failure
[00:16:00] The hidden complexity of getting dressed—and why it’s not just one task
[00:18:45] How brain maturation and scaffolding work together over time

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