In this episode of Spitefully Yours, Andrea Welker takes on one of her biggest pet peeves — people who park in handicapped spaces without authorization — and explains why it’s not a harmless shortcut, a “just a minute” decision, or a victimless act.
Using a real-world encounter as a jumping-off point, the episode breaks down what disabled parking spaces are actually for: safety, access, energy conservation, and preventing harm — not convenience or efficiency. Andrea explains why invisible disabilities are still disabilities, why hazard lights don’t grant permission, and why disabled people don’t owe anyone proof, politeness, or education.
The episode also explores the emotional and physical toll placed on disabled people when access is blocked — the constant calculations, the lost energy, and the unfair expectation that they quietly absorb other people’s entitlement. Andrea addresses the anger many disabled folks feel, clearly distinguishing between emotional reactions and illegal actions, while stating the legal reality: disabled people are not responsible for damage to someone else’s vehicle simply because someone chose to park illegally.
Rather than softening the message, the episode redirects the anger toward accountability — documenting violations, reporting them safely, and calling out behavior without self-destruction. It closes with a firm reminder that allyship is corrective, not performative, and that disabled access is not optional.
This episode isn’t about being nice.
It’s about being clear.
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