In this episode of Beautiful Work Beautiful Life, Laurel Boivin and Laurel Holland explore the deeply human—and often painful—habit of comparing ourselves to others. Together, they unpack how comparison is a mental activity rooted in storytelling, beliefs, and self-awareness, and how it can quietly shape our emotions, confidence, and life choices.
Rather than treating comparison as something to eliminate entirely, the Laurels invite listeners to transform it, from a source of self-doubt to a pathway toward clarity, purpose, and self-trust. Through reflection, curiosity, and intentional inner work, comparison becomes information rather than judgment, and an invitation to create a life that truly fits you.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
Why comparison creates emotional pain and how it subtly shapes our inner world
How the stories and beliefs beneath comparison reinforce self-doubt
What self-awareness makes possible when you notice comparison patterns
How to shift comparison from judgment into clarity, choice, and purpose
Journaling prompts suggested to further your exploration:
When do I most notice myself comparing to others, and what seems to trigger it?
What story am I telling myself when I’m in comparison—and what belief might be underneath that story?
Is comparison bringing me closer to the life I want, or getting in the way? How do I know?
What do I think I want when I compare myself to someone else—and why do I want it?
How might I meet the deeper feeling or need I’m seeking without needing the “thing” I’m comparing myself to?
The email to send questions to Laurel Boivin is laurel@fluxflowcoaching.com and for Laurel Holland - laurel@liveyourinnerpower.com
Host/Cohost/Guest Info
Guiding others to become effective leaders of their own lives, Laurel Holland has been on a journey of awakening and transformation throughout her life. Writing about inner work, Laurel has authored four books, including Crossroads and Love’s 8 Laws. Her books, Live Your Inner Power, the Journal, and Courageous Woman, introduce, share, and explore the eight foundational practices for creating transformation from the inside out. Through her books, programs, and innovative talks, Laurel’s great desire is to lift others up and courageously step into the life they came here to live. You can learn more about Laurel, her books, and work she does at www.liveyourinnerpower.com.
Laurel Boivin is a leadership coach, speaker, and workshop facilitator. Founder of Flux+Flow Professional Coaching, Laurel works with high-performing professionals and mission-driven organizations to shift from achievement to alignment — helping them connect deeply to purpose, lead with confidence, and create environments where people thrive. A Reiki master and yoga practitioner, collector of sea glass and antiques, she lives in New Hampshire and summers in Maine. You can learn more about Laurel and the work she does at www.fluxflowcoaching.com.
