(Part 2 of 2) Lisa Colon shared in last week's episode her high risk first pregnancy and the loss of her daughter Gracie at 5 1/2 months. In this episode she talks more in-depth about how she handled the grief of losing her daughter. One thing she did right away was quit her job. She said I didn't want coworkers to ask me questions about Gracie. She started a new job within weeks and headed out of town for training. She never had time to process the grief due to a new job and family situations. She said I wasn't even conscious that I wasn't grieving, and I just know I need to move on to the next thing, so my grief was different. She just kept moving on to the next thing and caring for her growing family.
We also talked about Lisa becoming pregnant again after her loss. She shared about freaking out because she was told to see a specialist before becoming pregnant again. Lisa shared about the anxiety and stress she experienced during her pregnancy after the loss. She said her grief was delayed and she remembers when her boys were young that she began to think about Gracie more frequently. She thought about how the family dynamics would have been much different.
I loved that Lisa shared that she didn't know the problem that caused the loss of Gracie at the time, so she doesn't feel guilty that Gracie isn't here. She said, I didn't do anything wrong because I just didn't know, and this is great advice for all mom's that have experienced a loss.
The movie that Lisa referenced was, Heaven is for Real
Lisa's advice and encouragement: Don't ever think that you should not do things to honor your child if people don't understand the things. It's for you to honor them most importantly. There is no right or wrong way to honor them and you should be proud of whatever that is and know that everyone is not going to understand. When you make decisions to honor your baby in different ways it does allow your family and friends to come right alongside you and support you in a way that they love to do as well. Many times, they will want to honor your baby because they are still part of your family. Lisa said I want to help people to remember Gracie too. She shared that grief is a lifelong journey and you can have joy and pain walking parallel to each other through that journey.
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