❌ The Danger of Rushing to Fix What's Wrong ❌
When we unconsciously rush to fix things - change our living situation, our jobs, our bodies, our partners - we run a couple of risks.
The first is we may not be addressing the key issue. Have we asked ourselves why we want to change, or what the change will bring about, enough to get to the root need we’re trying to satisfy?
We all like solutions, and working on them can feel like we’re improving our lives. Without getting clear on what the need is, we can be overly focused on a strategy only to find out that our underlying need isn’t met.
Our salary is a great example here. At first we’re earning enough to survive, to satisfy our need for security. Then we reach that number and it doesn’t feel enough, so we want a higher salary, possibly trying to satisfy the need for freedom, or significance. Research has found that regardless of our current salary, our goal salary is always 150% of what we’re making!
When we understand our needs, we can chose better strategies for satisfying them. The work at the start to get clear on what our needs are and if our strategies can actually help satisfy them will save us a lot of disappointment.
