There is an old saying in French: 'Qui ne dit mot consent', meaning that silence is consent. But is it really?
Ginty and Mpinga (Marino) decided to have this conversation when one of Marino's friends asked a group of women she was interacting with if they would ever refuse to have sex with their husbands, in case they don't want to. In the begging, Ginty couldn't really understand what Mpinga was talking about, because in her mind people should be able to say no when they don't feel comfortable about certain things. Well... the truth is, that is a very naive way of looking at things.
More often than not, women are told that they actually CANNOT say no! This is the general discussion during many bridal showers. But when you do not have the ability to say no, can we assume that you have said yes? There will be a time that you will let things happen because you want them to, there will also be a time you will let them happen because you have no choice. You have no right to say no. No right to explain yourself. That is marital rape, and it is actually recognized as a crime in Rwanda. But do people know? Do they report? Are they given justice? Do women or men ever go report such abuses?
Listen and tell us what you think.
