This might be bold to say, but self-help can be a trap. Constantly feeling like you need to fix things, work on yourself, look inward, obsess, & ruminate can drive you up a wall.
Manifestation culture got me in a hamster wheel of constantly needing to fix myself.
My not-self was running the show and I was going in circles, feeling lack all the time, and making up stories about WHYYY I wasn’t getting what I was wanting.
My mind was having fun (or was it..?) but my body most definitely was not. Talk about frustration and anger.
I do want to add that I’m not saying self-help tools aren’t impactful. However, there’s a difference between intentional treatment and trauma healing... and constantly searching for things to fix to the point of obsession. Somatic experiencing and voice dialogue were sooo helpful, and I still partake in using these tools.... when it’s correct for me following my strategy & authority. I don’t let my mind go searching for what needs fixing. Why would I do that when following my S&A feels so much better and actually leads to alignment instead of borderline psychosis.
I can now stop obsessing over what I’m NOT... and focus on what I am. And what I am is pretty damn awesome ♥
