Good intentions do indeed pave the road to pain and suffering and not just your own - you pass it on to your children and they will pass it on to their children until someone gets sick of it and says yeah, no I don't think so. Then it changes.
A patron and I had a lovely conversation about this and a couple of the examples used came from that conversation and I hope they help. That patron is really a wonder!
Peer pressure is not allowed - at all. If anyone is pressuring you then the answer is no - it's coming from the head not the heart.
I hope this podcast helps you to see the different ways we interfere without thinking about it instead of letting others decide what they think.
Hope this helps and blessings to you!!