Dana was known as a bully in the school, and Riley knew it. However, she was in the middle of science class. Maybe it was the noise and confusion around the room, or maybe the teacher was preoccupied. Either way, Dana had set her sights on Riley, and was ready to put her in her place.
As Dana’s words brought Riley’s attention to the danger as she turned, and stood facing Dana just as the attempted tackle was in full motion. Riley was surprisingly unafraid, and shot her legs back, while dropping her forearms on Dana’s shoulders, ALLOWING her forward momentum to dissipate. Try as she might, Dana could not grab hold of her legs, or waist to complete her tackle, and the weight of Riley’s body pushed down on her back, neutralizing her forward motion.
Backing off, Dana smirked and visibly was considering a second attack. Riley’s response was calm and non-threatening, “Are you sure you want to do this?” Dana laughed it off and went back to her table. Although the scrimmage was brief, and probably non-lethal, still Riley’s response of ALLOWING and controlling damage was highly effective.
So many times in life we respond with force against force, the very definition of fighting. Fights cause damage, pain, and loss of energy. The PRINCIPLE of ALLOWING and controlling the damage, or potential harm, is powerful. However, “no response” in a conflict is by definition a response. ALLOWING someone’s actions, or words to occur, without direct confrontation, and controlling the damage that they can do is powerful.
ALLOWING is not actually giving up, or giving in. Instead, non resistance, and damage control actually directs the outcome of most the situations. Fighting mostly leads to more fighting, creating enemies and battles in the future.
ALLOWING is a strategy of motion and energy to control the outcome through controlling what really needs to be controlled. The outcome.
In life and Life Defense learn to control what needs control and ALLOW all that doesn’t. ALLOW…
Allen Hughes Life Defense Coach
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