This episode is all about losing people from our lives; AKA endings, small deaths, loss, beginning of the grieving process and creation of new space. When people leave our lives, be it a partner, friends, a job, co-workers, it is a difficult thing to sit with. It brings change where we hadn’t anticipated change to appear. We feel raw and hurt and unsure. These are all invitations to do the hard thing and ask each of our emotions and feelings to tell us more. To invite the grief that can and should always follow an ending, especially ones that are unwanted or unforeseen. Because in that grief comes the strength of Knowing. The allowing that brings us to a more balanced state of realization and Knowing that this is not about us being fundamentally or characteristically flawed; it was just time. Time to go. Time to seek new, even if new looks like empty space for awhile. There is forgiveness in grief; forgiveness for the other, and forgiveness for ourselves for all the times we showed up imperfectly in the relationship, for thinking that we could’ve done better or more, or going down the “if only” path. Forgiveness is release, surrender, and acceptance. Especially if we have some fears around being left or abandoned, this is an especially challenging circumstance. We don’t always get closure. That’s something we have to give ourselves. How? By turning inward and finding answers. They may not be the answer we wanted, but they are the ones we need. And sometimes we are the ones intentionally choosing to step away from the relationship. We are saying “I love you, but this is no longer for me.” In that moment, we are choosing ourselves and our path fully. We are saying No to compromise and self-abandonment, and saying no to guilt and shame, and instead we are standing tall in ourselves. We are standing tall in what we Know can no longer be for us. And here’s the thing: it’s nothing personal. When people choose not to jam with us anymore, it is not personal. It’s path, it’s alignment. And if we truly want a more loving world, we have to step back from attachment and personal offense and allow people to go where they are guided, and we let them go with grace and peace. This weeks meditation is called Today I Bless this, and the card reading segment is read from Collete Baron-Reid’s Good Tarot Deck. Thanks for being here, and thank you for choosing to jam with me. Much love from your host, Kristi Derkacy **Announcements: please subscribe to the podcast, follow on Instagram @resonance_restorative, or Facebook Resonance Restorative, leave a review if you appreciate the work and it resonates for you! Check on my online course, Restore Your Relationships, for a deep loving dive into all the beautiful stuff you are made of.
