There is a reason that we are drawn to wallow in sadness and hit replay on hurt feelings to relive each and every detail. Our brains are hardwired for negativity bias, meaning that we learn faster from bad things happening than we do from good ones. This is very primal, from way back when we were being chased by Saber-tooth tigers and needing to learn fast lessons of survival. The good news is that we have the power to re-wire our hard-drives for happiness by learning to be and work with the mind, something referred to as self-directed neuroplasticity. By actively inviting positive experiences in and becoming comfortable with this good feeling, our brain's neural networks change in a way that allows for more good to come in as well as for authentic self-compassion and assertiveness.
