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The following is an excerpt from The Grieving Brain: The Surprising. "The Grieving Brain: Through my years of study and research, I eventually realized the brain has a problem to solve when a loved one has died. This is not a trivial problem. Losing our one-and-only overwhelms us because we need our loved ones as much as we need food and water.
Fortunately, the brain is good at solving problems. In fact, the brain exists for precisely this function. After decades of research, I realized that the brain spends a lot of effort on figuring out where our loved ones are when they were alive so that we could find them when we needed them. The brain prefers consistent habits and predictions over new information. Therefore, our brain struggles to learn new information that can not be ignored, like the absence of our loved ones. Grieving requires us to make a difficult choice of throwing out the life we previously had and techniques we used to navigate our lives together with our loved ones who died. Grieving, or learning to live a meaningful life without our loved one, is ultimately a type of learning. Because learning is something we do our whole lives, seeing grieving as a type of learning may make it feel more familiar and understandable and give us the patience to allow this remarkable process to unfold Cite:www.twylaellis.net https://www.sciencefriday.com/articles/brain-grief/
