“Believe in yourself and have faith in your abilities! Without humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.” – Norman Vincent Peale
Some things we may commonly do that may create this disconnect
Overthinking
Shoulds
Prejudices & Unconscious Bias
A loved one’s or authority figure’s needs/wants/opinion/advice
When you badly want something
Previous trauma
Reference
https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/yes-trust-gut-heres/