At the root of many if not ALL of our failures, problems, and worries is an elusive but very strong and highly influential false belief of GUILT and SHAME.
This guilt is essentially SELF ATTACK or SELF NEGATION. The SELF being that innocent, creative, and alive unit of consciousness that has at its core an innate drive to LIVE and GIVE LIFE. That is your basic purpose here on earth.
This false guilt and shame, once implanted in the mind, emotions, and even your body, will control how you behave and relate to the world.
This programming usually happens when we are very young. It IN FACT, may simply be transmitted down right from our mother while we are developing in the womb if she herself carried this false guilt and shame.
And then, as we are exploring our world as children, we innocently do what kids do and find ourselves being made "wrong" for it because our parents and others have standards for how we should operate.
Now, it's not unhealthy to teach kids guidelines for living, BUT, oftentimes, we are severely scolded or shamed for things we simply don't understand as being "wrong". This is where we can internalize the guilt and shame and start to believe the lie that we are fundamentally "wrong".
It can also happen during traumatic events like witnessing abuse to one of our parents or siblings or receiving the abuse ourselves.
In my case, at 10, I witnessed my mother being severely beaten by her boyfriend. I wanted to fight and protect her, but I was scared and felt powerless. I internalized a deep sense of guilt (made myself wrong for not being able to protect her) and this led to a deeply held sense of shame that I now wanted to cover up.
I covered it up by getting violent to act as if I was tough, because deep down, I felt like a coward and powerless.
We all compensate in various ways for this guilt and shame we carry. It can be through trying to prove we are successful, chase relationships to prove we are loved, turn to drugs or alcohol to alleviate the guilt and shame, or we can become harshly judgmental and critical of others to try and make ourselves look and feel better.
There's so many more ways we deal with it. That's just a few.
Unless we go down deep into the core of our own being and uproot this false guilt and shame, we find ourselves struggling and dissatisfied in life and in our relationships.
It isn't natural for us to do this since we are raised with most of our attention being on the outer world rather than the inner.
We habitually work on making our lives successful by doing more and following prescribed paths for "success" that most people are now finding unfulfilling and disappointing.
We must turn within deep into our core, and we can't do this alone. The place in our memory, emotions, and body is so terrifying to us that we, even with our best efforts, cannot penetrate as we have worked so hard to avoid it and fundamentally don't feel safe to enter.
We need the presence of others to provide the natural tribal safety that permits us to break into these locked domains of our consciousness and set ourselves free.
THAT is why I've created The Core Encounter, the Men Of Honor Rising and Women Of Courage Rising, and the Leadership, Influence, and Team Training programs.
I've made it my life's work to provide people with the tools and the support to break free from the limitations within and have now formed a growing community where we can FINALLY find the right kind of support that not even our close family members know how to provide.
It's no one's fault. We just don't know how to give ourselves or others the kind of listening and compassion that allows us to go all the way to the core and finally get free from all the lies.
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