Just from the title I bet the Beatles song rang through your head. “All You Need is Love, da, da,da,da,daaa” According to Maslow and others there are a few other needs. But love is on the list and pretty high up there! While love may not be the only thing you need without it, life would be bitter and worthless. But John Lennon was on to something when he said “We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others.”
So, the answer to the question Who loves you anyways? The answer needs to start with ME; I love myself! Love of someone else is only possible when we love ourselves. Love is found in a few other mammal groups but nowhere else in the animal kingdom. It is primarily a distinctive human trait. It is what allows us to create a special connection outside of those we are related to and our mate. Love is part of the blueprint that has made survival of the species possible.
Love comes about as we engage in a mutually intensified relationship. Self-love doesn’t come from meeting only our needs. No that makes us either narcissistic or a sociopath. Self-love is developed as we meet the needs of ourselves as well as others we are in relationships with. Love makes us whole. Not from the outside but from the inside. I am complete not because of my wife or the amazing relationship I have with her. No, but as I built the amazing relationship with her, I gained more love for myself. It is synergistic. Love is deeply caring for others. Loving hands can soothe pains, it can ease hurts. Love is what makes life beautiful. Without it we will lose our taste for life. If you are thinking about taking yourself out of this world, then you are not feeling loved!
The first step to loving anyone, yourself included you must recognize the value of that person you want to love. You and everyone on this earth has overcome amazing odds to get here. Everyone here has talents and abilities that are unique to them. Everyone on this earth is lovable. Each one of us is capable. Your relationships are a defining factor in shaping your life. If you love someone; you will listen, respect and understand that person. So how much do you listen, respect and understand yourself? Those are required of you in order to feel deeply for yourself or others. It is difficult to snow others for long periods of time. It is just not very likely. The effort that would take would be incredible. So, if there are people who love you, those that care, then there are reasons that you are worthy of being loved. Even if you can’t see them. Love is recognizing the value of a person and being true to oneself.
If you are tired of suffering, beating up on yourself, overreacting, using avoidance tactics, breaking your word, and doing it over and over again; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete you need the “you have value program.” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself, fail and continue to try, or stop chasing comfort. I would love to help you create who you are actually capable of becoming. Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.
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