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When we are feeling unlovable it is a 2 sided blade. The fact is unlovable is the feeling not the thought a lot of the time. The thoughts range from mostly two sets of thought processes.  Most times we have been telling ourselves we are either “not enough” or we are “too much.”

These stories that we tell ourselves get us to feel unlovable, inadequate, flawed, guilty or ashamed. Those feelings are based on the thought that precedes them. So this story that we tell ourselves actually creates our emotions. In the interview with Halle Berry.she talked about those thoughts coming as a result of her divorces. In my case they started as I looked at my excitement and enthusiasm as a child and I determined that I was flawed and I became ashamed. What is the story you tell yourself and what feeling does it invoke.  Is it possible that some of the thoughts that run through your head are untrue? Can you see a possibility of the “not enough” and the “too much” thoughts being lies?

Most of you are no longer a child but many of you still think like you did as a child. Start questioning the stories you believe that you learned. Start a new story by asking questions like:

Perhaps they do love me and are just preoccupied by other concerns.

Perhaps they are unsure how to show the love they feel.

Perhaps I have not understood how they think love is shown.

Perhaps they have been hurt and are afraid to show how they feel.

Perhaps I could deepen my own worthiness and not be triggered by the actions of others.

Perhaps we are a mismatched pair and I don’t need love from them.

The whole point is to begin to shift your perspective. To open up the dialogue that you could have worth. Stop the myths that we have carried with us. To realize the myths are from us and we are in control of them.

1. Make a commitment to Love yourself and see you as lovable.
   
2. Let go of thoughts about our house, car income body and accept who you are and what you have to contribute.
   
3. Be compassionate towards yourself. Eat well, rest, exercise, and have lots of fun.
   
4. Have your story be one of success. See the possibility of your vision coming true.
   
5. Focus and accept what now brings and what is, without blame, shame or guilt.
   
6. Take action, Move, even a sideways move will create forward motion.
   
7. Start looking at the possibility of the positive and talk about it.  An optimistic,can do attitude gives us energy.
   
8. Identify and build a relationship with the part of you that doesn’t think they are loved.
   
9. Accept you as your best self.
   
10. Meditation!! It opens the heart, mind and soul. It helps us to overcome old limiting beliefs.
    

Now I hope each one of you will hear me when I say how much I appreciate each of you. I’m grateful that you are spending your time with me today so we can develop this friendship. You mean a lot to me and I am glad you are here. I know some of the things you have overcome to get here. If this message has been helpful please share it with a friend who may need to hear it. If you haven't yet, do yourself  and me a favor and subscribe to this podcast. Also, check out the show notes there will be a spot to click and set up a time so we can discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!