Hey there! This week I begin with my tea talk (Apple-cinnamon tea in a Little Prince mug) and a life update about everything I’ve been up to, I introduce the topic of toxic friendships by saying why I want to talk about it, my goal, and a disclaimer. I begin by sustaining that we’re all a bit toxic: it’s human nature, so we need to set boundaries, and understand md when these tendencies can be unleashed. Then, I explore why toxic friendships are necessary: they keep us humble, remind us not to idealise people, teach us how to cope, acknowledge how draining they can be, and make a distinction of when they cross the line. Lastly, I share my favourite coping strategies (venting, speaking up, setting distance, and journaling), but take into account the role of insecurity. I wrap up with some main takeaways and share my favourite show, song, and Instagram filter.
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CHECK OUT THE THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE (IN ORDER OF APPEARANCE):
Listen to my episode on the importance of dissatisfaction (on Spotify): https://open.spotify.com/episode/6dzfaa5heVvkVVHgvnTR1a?si=hVNbzPfORfmYKU05NiUg6A
Tea: https://lateresita.co
TikTok: @theabeaury
Take the enneagram personality test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test
Netflix show: Lupin
Listen to Meet me in the Pale Moonlight by Lana Del Rey unreleased on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3CdDXjCTThq2njJVM2pGbQ?si=f3l6N5oBSciBYx_DoXkFvg
Instagram filter: RETRO STARS by marielabagnato
HERE ARE SOME QUOTES I LIKED FROM THIS WEEK’S EPISODE:
12:58 = “We are all a little bit toxic”
14:22 = “For me, toxic behaviours are behaviours that harm another person in any way”
19:17 = “In response to all of this toxicity, I think it’s just a matter of setting boundaries”
19:40 = “No one person will occupy 100% of your attention”
21:10 = “Sometimes the way people behave in toxic manners is not my fault”
22:57 = “Sometimes toxic friendships are necessary”
24:08 = “I don’t think some toxic traits are enough to get rid of a friend when there’s so many other things they can contribute to you”
25:26 = “I think that toxic friendships also help you not to idealise people”
28:41 = “There’s so many more pros than cons to this friendship, so I’m trying to learn to live with these cons. They shouldn’t be taken personally, they’re just a reflection of what is going on inside this person, and not my fault”
30:54 = “We need to make the distinction between friendships with people who have some toxic tendencies and toxic friendships”
35:25 = “Friendships are like the tide, they come in waves”
35:59 = “If you get too much of one person, you’re going to get burned out from them”
36:52 = “Distance is necessary for any relationship to be healthy”
38:09 = “If you become more secure in yourself, these things won’t get to you as much”
Thanks for tuning in, have a beautiful week!
