Jeff Heggie Daily Success Strategies
176: Your Good Intentions Are Screwing Up Your Kids
Praising ABILITY pushes to a Fixed Mindset
Praising EFFORT, almost always encourages a Growth Mindset and encourages them to take on new challenges
No parent ever thinks, “What can I do to limit my child’s achievement?”
They’re thinking, “I’d do anything to make them successful”
Yet many of the things parents say are sending the wrong message.
Everything we say is sending a message.
It’s telling the child or athlete how to think about themselves
It can be a fixed mindset message, saying “You have permanent traits and I’m judging them.”
Or it can be a growth mindset message saying “You are developing and Im committed to your development.”
Supportive, Esteem Boosting Messages…
