In today's episode we are going to be talking about the idea of spreading less judgement and more love, compassion and kindness. Today's episode was inspired by my new favorite author, Gabby Bernstein, and her book The Universe Has Your Back. In this book, Gabby talks about how what you judge in others is what you judge in yourself. This goes along with one of my all time favorite quotes which is, "People will judge. Let them. Judgment is but a mirror reflecting the insecurities of the person who's doing the judging."
We use judgement to avoid the feeling of our own inadequacy, insecurities, and lack of self worth. Instead of addressing those feelings, we look at the perceived shortcomings of others so we don't have to face our own pain. This only gives us temporary relief, though. Our own feelings of inadequacy don't go away, and we're also left feeling unconsciously guilty for judging others. Every time you judge someone else, you might notice that you most likely feel sad, disconnected, low energy, physically or mentally weak... and just all in all, it doesn't make you feel good!!!
Our ego also cannot survive without judgement... because the ego seeks to divide and separate us. Judgement is what keeps us in the illusion that we are separate from one another. Without judgement... we would see one another as equal. We'd have no feelings of better than, or less than. We would be one. And when we're in tune with the feeling of oneness... we are set free. Oneness helps us see one another as equal. It gets rid of those feelings of better than, or less than, judgement and separation.
I just feel like we're all going through a lot right now with the CoronaVirus, politics, living situations, finances, unemployment, relationships, whatever it may be. And I know some days, whatever you're going through may seem so heavy that it feels like you're the only one going through what you're going through.
But I think it's just so damn important, especially right now, to remember to be kind, because we're all going through SOMETHING. Everyone is fighting some kind of a hard battle right now, that we may know or know nothing about. So when you have the choice to choose judgement or to choose kindness... I really hope you can begin to choose kindness.
And I'm going to be completely real with you guys. I don't want to act like I'm the queen of kindness over here. Because I'm trying so hard to do better, but I haven't always been kind and non-judgmental.
And I truly think this had a lot to do with the people I was surrounding myself with in the past. Because you can't "change" the people around you, but you "can change" the people around you - meaning, who you choose to surround yourself with.
In this episode I talk about how it's important to surround yourself with people who will encourage you to be more kind and compassionate, and less (or not at all) judgmental of others. In other words... people who don't spend a lot of (if ANY) time talking shit about other people behind their backs.
And I ALSO encourage you to reevaluate who you are following, and allowing to follow YOU, on social media... and to mute, block or unfollow anyone who you feel like may be constantly judging YOU, or influencing you to be more judgmental and less kind, compassionate and loving towards YOURSELF and others.
