Do your kids give up easily when challenged? Are they perfectionists, afraid to try something new or afraid to fail? Do they make excuses for performing poorly with cop-outs like "I'm just not good at math." If so, they need a dose of GROWTH MINDSET. Learn how to celebrate victories, no matter how small, and build a sense of persistence into your kids with positive self-talk and a focus on the process instead of the outcome.
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QUOTABLES
DeeDee: I really love that ... worksheet where you look at ... something I wanted to learn, I worked hard at it, and then I conquered it. Really seeing, "Hey, I've done that in the past. I can apply that same tenacity, that same energy, into this challenge." That's really powerful, whether it's something with art or an instrument or even a challenging math concept.
Ximena: It takes getting things wrong in order to get things right.
TIMESTAMPS
02:41 What is a growth mindset and what is its opposite — the fixed mindset. When students believe that they can actually get smarter, they understand that effort makes them stronger, therefore they put in the extra time and effort it takes to achieve that goal. So, that's the growth mindset.
03:54 Growth mindset helps kids overcome challenges.
06:08 Telling kids they are good at something is not helpful. Instead, praise their HARD WORK at overcoming challenges.
07:08 So much talent and skill goes to waste when we have a fixed mindset.
07:50 Kids who think intelligence is static tend to avoid challenges, ignore useful negative feedback and feel threatened by the success of others. They will plateau early and achieve less than their full potential.
08:48 Intelligence can be developed. A growth mindset gives people a greater sense of free will.
10:28 With a fixed mindset, you avoid anything that may show you're not smart.
15:05 Parents need a change of mindset as much as kids do. And it starts with our speech.
15:36 Examples of a fixed mindset:
Relate to your kids in their weaknesses, but don't coddle their limits. We can all grow!
More to read about Growth Mindset
18:00 Practice and praise purposeful effort. Avoid negative self-talk because that teaches kids to talk to themselves the same way.
19:42 Find joy in the process (instead of the outcome).
22:11 Encourage reflection to evaluate and celebrate growth.
24:11 See weaknesses as an area for growth.
24:50 Learn for the sake of learning. It's fun!
25:18 Read biographies of scientists who struggled to discover or create. These are great role models for having a growth mindset.
25:29 Quick phrases that we can swap in our homeschool via @theconfidenthomeschooler.
