(00:06) #1 Get some objectivity
(01:35) #2 Use 3rd person perspective
(03:24) #3 "What is the purpose of this communication?"
(05:07) Be careful not to overuse "The Narcissist" label
(07:03) #4 "Does this interaction have the classical hallmarks of Cluster B?"
(10:10) #5 See if you perceive the interaction differently when the flashback has passed
(11:05) #6 Look for consistency over time of abusiveness
(13:18) #7 If you're asking the question and doing the research, it's probable that you're facing Cluster B abuse
