Topic - Adult Attachment Issues. There’s a reason for those snarky comments about lovers who “can’t commit”.
The devastating impacts of childhood attachment disorders persist throughout adulthood.
Before developing expectations about your partner’s ability to emotionally engage in the relationship, learn about their childhood.
Was mother nurturing, dependable, emotionally balanced and responsive? A consistent mother figure is responsible for developing attachment in their babies.
If mother struggled, your partner may show signs of the dismissing attachment pattern where they’re guarded about discussing their childhood and the relationship with their Mom.
A preoccupied pattern is where they’re frustrated trying to please their parents and they stay enmeshed in the family drama.
The unresolved pattern is suggestive of severe abuse and they’re still traumatized.
Get therapeutic support to understand “what” happened then and what you can do now.
