Recently reread Ryan Holiday's book, "The Obstacle is the Way." In that book, Holiday outlines the power of transforming those ass kicking life events into triumph. It is all you can do. Love what has happened and learn from it. It all comes down from one powerful quote from Marcus Aurelius.
See things for what the are.
Do what we can
Endure and bear what we must
What blocked the path is now the path
What once impeded action advances action.
The Obstacle is the Way.
I also include a pithy quote by Nassim Taleb outlining his version of Stoicism.
