The feelings of attention and significance are fundamental human needs, but many people don’t know how to meet their needs in a way that is healthy.
A man may send an obscene picture to a woman to get her attention, and even though in some form he achieves significance, it is likely to fall short of his highest hopes. Similarly, though less offensively, a woman might emphasize her cleavage, perhaps affirming an insecurity - stating through her actions that her personality won’t be adequate to attract the man.
In an extreme case, a person might injure or sicken oneself to gain attention, or be cruel to gain significance.
Surely there must be a better way, and there is, though it takes courage, vulnerability, and honesty.
Perhaps you might find your own way to meet your needs while meeting the needs of others, when you ask the question: how can we be together?
Content warning: sexual themes
For the transcript: How Can We Be Together A Beautiful Thought
