Comedian Buddy Hackett once said “I've had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge, they're out dancing.” When we hold a grudge, we spend mental energy, making our thoughts pay rent on something that makes us unhappy and rarely serves to make us any wiser.
Likewise if we have the habit of “shoulding”, having beliefs and thought patterns about how the world “should” be. The world is as it is, and no amount of mere demands from us can change it. In fact, if we really want to change it, it’s best to see it accurately.
Then once we can see it accurately, we can choose to also see it in a way that empowers us, or helps us to see the beauty in the world.
One way or another, we carry our thoughts around. If we choose our beliefs well, they will help us on our journey.
For the transcript: Thoughts Pay Rent A Beautiful Thought
