How do you start your day? Today’s guest Cybele Botran’s daily must do is “BREATH WORK.” She takes long, luxurious breaths through her nose, holds for four counts and exhales for eight. This process brings her into the present moment. She also uses this process early in the morning and to help her fall asleep at night.
Her starting over journey began when she stopped drinking alcohol in 2011, and in 2018, started inner child work. So her start over, in essence, had been like having a second childhood.
Have you ever considered understanding and deepening your connection with your inner childhood? Cybele shares the importance of how deepening her inner child work has not only helped in her own relationship but in others as well.
Listen how she meets her needs for safety, belonging and love, which we all long for.
Having a second childhood is about reconnecting to your inner child, and kind of giving her a chance to develop in a safe and protected way. Which means, inner child work is a deep inner work process where you slowly make contact with your inner child. And inner child work is a very powerful way to meet your needs for safety, love, and belonging.
When she talks about her inner child, it's the part of herself that developed during her childhood. It's when she formed her core or even subconscious beliefs, emotions, fears, things that trigger her. It's really a process about getting so attuned to what's really going on inside and attending to yourself.
Inner child work is very transformative and powerful. However, it is a slow process that can take months to learn. Cybele shares how interacting in her adult life was triggered by situations, people in relationships from subconscious or core beliefs that had developed in her childhood. And even when knowing our parents were doing the best job that they could with the tools they had, we might have experienced a sense of an abandonment in childhood that we coped with, by changing our behavior in order to get our needs met. It's again a slow process, but it’s very worth it.
“Self love is truly the most important tool towards healing.”
TIPS:
“You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.”
Get in touch with Cybele Botran at www.wideawakerecovery.com
Sign up for her: Self-Love for Your Inner Child: An 8-week Reparenting Course for Women starts Sunday, April 4. Sign up online at www.wideawakerecovery.com
