When it comes to initiating a split, there's a clear pattern in who makes the final call. In Western heterosexual relationships, women catalyse an enormous proportion of divorces. In the US specifically, where no-fault divorce is legal in all 50 sates, some estimates put the figure at 70%, according to the BBC.
“I'm Donna McGoff retired teacher/counselor, inventor of board games, author, and life coach. It's my passion to help women to move out of the past and rebuild a new life full of joy and happiness, after divorce.
Many women are "stuck" and don't know where or how to begin to move forward and create a life they would love living. They are stuck somewhere, or they wouldn't have longing and discontent. (Some think holding everything together and going through a daily routine every day is success. That is not success but settling, and life is not meant to be lived that way.)
That was me. When nothing else worked, with my background, experience, and expertise, I created my own plan of action. It evolved into five steps taking me from a long period after divorce (stuck) to my personal transformation. It's called Recover, Reconnect, Reinvent--The Ultimate Results-Driven Process Rebuilding A New Life After Divorce.
One of the key components of this success of this process is making THE DECISION that you will take responsibility for where you are now, and you'll do what it takes to get to where you want to go. One has to be willing to change mindset, perspective, and attitude in order to get different results. You recover and heal from the inside out. That is the key. It all starts inside, and learning to think correctly is the secret.
There is no groveling around in the past. This is forward moving. It's not that the past isn't there or that one doesn't have it in their life but you learn to make enough space inside to create a new plan, take action, and make your new life happen.
It's is step by step process. You will find out where you are "stuck" then do the work (Ramping Up) to move through (The Road Through Recovery--that's the recovery cycle.) Next, there is Reconnecting With Self (who you are now--some of your roles and identity has changed.) Then, there's Reinventing Self (who you want to become for the future--strengths, passions, and values.) Finally, Relaunching Self (Where you want to go for the future.)
I blog for Divorce Magazine. I offer Coaching Programs and Online Courses.
I have a Master of Science in Human Development Counseling and Family Studies.” She joined me this week to tell me more.
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