Resentment is an internalized emotional pain that we carry from childhood or adulthood and later project on others when we get triggered to gain a conscious awareness of what we need to heal from.
Without understanding our emotions and what they are teaching us about ourselves, we project the negative/buried emotional trauma/wounds on others and make it about them.
We must understand that everything we feel is valid but without processing the emotions and learning to sit with them to gain knowledge, we allow ourselves to choose conflict and communicate the pain to our partners which may harm the relationship.
While it is not a bad idea to communicate what you are experiencing to your partner, it’s is also important to understand what you are experiencing first for the communication to be effective and not result in more conflicts.
Sit with your emotions and ask yourself, “what are you discovering about yourself?”
What do you need to heal from that may have been internalized from childhood or adulthood?
What life lesson are you learning or discovering in order to evolve?
What are you giving into that you should establish healthy boundaries around?
Kemi Sogunle - Certified Life and Relationship Coach + NLP. Author of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality,” “Being Single,” “Beyond the Pain” and “On Becoming Restored.” (https://www.kemisogunle.com)
