At some point in our lives, we all play mind games especially when we do not know ourselves.
Mind games make us feel powerful especially when we have buried and unhealed pain/trauma. Mind games help us escape taking ownership of our emotions and feelings.
Here are some ways we play mind games:
1. Setting unrealistic expectations - expecting others to meet our needs without making an attempt on our own.
2. Projection - projection buried and unhealed emotional wounds/trauma unto others.
3. Gaslighting others in unhealthy relationships to where they begin to question their own sanity.
4. Lovebombing - to gain power and emotionally manipulate and control the relationship and partner.
5. Shaming others - this is also used in the religious settings and is done for control and manipulation.
6. Auditioning and performing in relationships to win the partner over while people pleasing.
7. Guilt Tripping - to avoid addressing issues and dealing with reality.
Mind games don't let you "Think before you act and reason before you react/respond." - excerpt, "Beyond the Pain." Copyright ©2014 Kemi Sogunle. All Rights Reserved.
Reality is that you can feed your mind with healthy thoughts when you are busy playing mind games.
You are what you think and if you allow mind games to take over your thought process, you will make it a habit which eventually will lead to repeated patterns that become a lifestyle.
"What you feed your mind, leads your life." - excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright ©2014 Kemi Sogunle. All Rights Reserved.
I teach how to eliminate mind games in the Purposeful Relationship Circle. If you are ready to stop unhealthy habits that lead you further to losing who you are, I invite you to join the Purposeful Relationship Inner Circle to learn how to heal, find and love yourself in order to become the best version and authentic self while still living.
Signing off...yours truly,
Kemi Sogunle
www.kemisogunle.com
