Have you ever had to ask yourself why you keep meeting the wrong type of partners? Does it feel like you are the bull's eye for unhealthy relationships?
Reality is that there are no wrong or right partners. We tend to attract the opposite sex in relationships, based on where we are with ourselves.
You attract who you are.
Growing up in an environment where you may not have received attention, affection or love, may create a void and longing. You begin to fantasize and idealize the partner you believe you need. You draw up that long laundry list of who he/she must be. This only results in disappointments when the idea/persona you have created does not manifest in reality.
Creating a persona based on who you have not become, will lead you to project the ideas based on the fantasies on the partner you meet. The moment you discover that the partner is not meeting up with the persona you have created, you begin to try to fix them.
The truth is that you cannot fix anyone. You also cannot give the love you do not have.
For example, if you are looking for a partner making six figures, you have to be making six figures yourself. Everything you want that partner to manifest, must first be manifested in your life. That is the only way you can be on the same page with each other. Your values must align. Your needs must be met by you not your partner.
If you are not in alignment, you will experience major unresolved #conflicts which are usually due to the unhealed/buried emotional wounds.
You have to become the love you wish to attract and keep. You have to allow the partner see those values in your life and exercise your healthy boundaries where needed.
If you keep choosing the wrong partners, you are fleabagging (repeatedly dating partners who are wrong for you).
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Kemi Sogunle
www.kemisogunle.com
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