Maurice Harker uses the analogy of what you want for your daughter should also be what you want for yourself! To learn more about this topic and others please click on the links below:
http://www.lazaruslectures.com (for both)
https://www.lifechangingservices.org/wmrw/(for wives)
https://www.lifechangingservices.org/mmrw/ (for husbands)