Maurice Harker explains how to tell if you are being influenced by the dark side. By knowing this you can understand the how and why of what you are feeling. For more information on this topic and others please click on the links below:
http://www.lazaruslectures.com/ (For both)
https://www.lifechangingservices.org/wmrw/ (for wives)
https://www.lifechangingservices.org/mmrw/ (for husbands)