Maurice Harker explains why it is vital for both spouses to reach for God during marriage repair. He cautions against spouses reaching for each other rather then God to build a stable base to move forward together. Click on any of the links below to learn more about this topic and others:
http://www.lazaruslectures.com/ (For both)
https://www.lifechangingservices.org/wmrw/ (For wives)
https://www.lifechangingservices.org/mmrw/ (For husbands)